It’s not the yearly, fancy travel that creates a strong marriage, nor the expensive gifts that each one of you receive from each other. Although these are great to experience and have, these are not the glue that strengthens the bond of a marriage, but its those little things that you do for one another […]
Marriage is Being at Home
Being in a marriage feels like living in a house that makes us feel at home. There are feelings of comfort, safety, and security. According to attachment theory, these feelings are important in fostering a secure relationship. Marital researchers suggest that marriage also displays the three characteristics of attachment which are safe haven, secure base, […]
Feeling Lonely and Empty in Marriage
Do you feel alone in your marriage? Do you feel that sense of void and physical ache, that never seems to go away? Perhaps you’re wondering why you’re feeling that way with your spouse. If you don’t have a model of a satisfying and happy marriage, it would be hard to identify and address what […]
Signs Your Spouse is a Covert Narcissist
Some married individuals sense that there’s something amiss on their partner’s character, but they couldn’t put their finger on it. Their efforts to understand their partner, adjust themselves for them, and work on the relationship seem to be futile. To add to these, they tolerate the insentivities and abuses they receive from their narcisstic partners. […]
How to Have a Successful Relationship with an Anxiously Attached Partner
Anxious attachment style is one of the four attachment styles which include secure, fearful-avoidant and dismissive-avoidant styles. Read HERE to understand what an attachment style is. A person with an axious attachment style need more connection than a secure person. Therefore, emotional distance and disconnection trigger them which make them anxious and unsafe in the […]
4 Attachment Styles: What is Your Marital Attachment Style?
There are married individuals who feel emotionally connected to their spouses. When they are stressed, they are confident that their spouses have their back and will make an effort to support them. When they share something about themselves, they know that they will be heard, seen, and responded to. In short, they feel loved and […]
How to Emotionally Detach From Your Toxic Marriage
Healing and restoring an ailing marriage require both husband and wife to put work in their relationship. Their work may include going to counseling either alone or together, reading books and articles about marriage, attending relationship seminars, and applying their learning and realizations in the relationship, among others. But what if you’re the only one […]
You Can’t Save Your Spouse Who Doesn’t Want to be Saved
There are women who possess a characteristic called savior complex or messianic complex. A wife who has a savior complex believes that she is responsible for saving her husband. Yes, it is noble to help our spouses. After all we vowed to stay for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health. This connotes […]
Infidelity: To Forgive and Forget is a Harmful Advice
It is a cause of concern when clients tell me that they were previously advised to forgive and forget their partner’s betrayal. This advice is friendlier to the strayed spouse but constricting to the betrayed partner. The betrayed partner could feel unnecessary guilt because he/she couldn’t do what was being asked of her. Marie was […]
Wife’s Brothers are Dependent on us
I just need some advice. There are times when I cry out of self-pity. I have exhausted all my savings and been buried in debt. I have also borrowed from my own parents just to send my brothers-in-law to school. Now that they are 23 and 25, already finished in their studies, they refuse to […]
