Healing from infidelity is not a linear journey. It is a long, slow, and arduous process that unfolds layer by layer. First, you go through shock and survival, then through slow understanding, and then perhaps reconciliation. If you’re experiencing this, you’re not only struggling with deep emotional pain, but also feeling lost, confused, and clueless […]
How to Emotionally Detach From Your Toxic Marriage
Healing and restoring an ailing marriage require both husband and wife to put work in their relationship. Their work may include going to counseling either alone or together, reading books and articles about marriage, attending relationship seminars, and applying their learning and realizations in the relationship, among others. But what if you’re the only one […]
The Anxious Spouse, The Avoidant Spouse: The Tale of Two Affection Adventure Parks
Once upon a time, there were two children.Each had an Affection Park inside them. The parks are full of rides, lights, music, and the promise of joy. Child OneIn their park, the gates opened unpredictably.Some days, they were welcomed in with warm hugs and laughter – the rides spinning, the lights twinkling. Other days, without […]
5 Things To Do When You’re Tempted to Cheat
A married person may sometimes find themselves feeling an intense attraction or emotional fixation toward someone other than their spouse. It may feel like love, but it isn’t the kind of love rooted in commitment or sacrifice. It’s not agape either, which is the selfless love that gives without expecting in return. And it’s not […]
The Good Enough Spouse: Why Your Partner Does Not Have to Be Perfect
Many people come to marriage counseling frustrated and tired, saying things like, “Why can’t my spouse just get it right? Why do they keep letting me down?” If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. We all want our spouses to meet our needs and to understand us completely. But the truth is no one […]
What to Accept vs. What to Change in Marriage: Drawing Healthy Boundaries
Acceptance in marriage is essential for creating a relationship that truly works. Some aspects of who we are remain relatively unchanged throughout our lives – our basic temperament, core personality traits, and the way our childhood experiences have shaped us. Learning to embrace these fundamental parts of our partner is often the key to building […]
4 Small Things that will Strengthen the Bond in Your Marriage
It’s not the yearly, fancy travel that creates a strong marriage, nor the expensive gifts that each one of you receive from each other, but it’s those daily little things that you do for one another that strengthens the bond of a marriage. As they say, “little things are the big things.” This saying also holds […]
Marriage is Being at Home
Being in a marriage feels like living in a house that makes us feel at home. There are feelings of comfort, safety, and security. According to attachment theory, these feelings are important in fostering a secure relationship. Marital researchers suggest that marriage also displays the three characteristics of attachment which are safe haven, secure base, […]
Feeling Lonely and Empty in Marriage
Do you feel alone in your marriage? Do you feel that sense of void and physical ache, that never seems to go away? Perhaps you’re wondering why you’re feeling that way with your spouse. If you don’t have a model of a satisfying and happy marriage, it would be hard to identify and address what […]
Signs Your Spouse is a Covert Narcissist
Some married individuals sense that there’s something amiss on their partner’s character, but they couldn’t put their finger on it. Their efforts to understand their partner, adjust themselves for them, and work on the relationship seem to be futile. To add to these, they tolerate the insentivities and abuses they receive from their narcisstic partners. […]
How to Have a Successful Relationship with an Anxiously Attached Partner
Anxious attachment style is one of the four attachment styles which include secure, fearful-avoidant and dismissive-avoidant styles. Read HERE to understand what an attachment style is. A person with an axious attachment style need more connection than a secure person. Therefore, emotional distance and disconnection trigger them which make them anxious and unsafe in the […]